- any of the features that make something what it is; characteristic element; attribute
- basic nature; character; kind
- the degree of excellence which a thing possesses
- excellence; superiority
- Now Rare position, capacity, or role
- Now Rare high social position
- Now Chiefly Dial. people of high social position Approaching my sugar search as I do my studies in school I look for excellence : my grades in school are important to me.. so why not apply this to my search in a SD? Hence, my list was born with me sitting on the bed in only a little teddy with no underwear and slathered up in lotion.. which was so appropriate for my mood that night. My list:
- Honesty: both vocally and through media means.. for example the picture you send to me via email is actually you and current not from 25 years ago..
- Well Mannered!
- Financial Honesty: again a category separate from basic honesty... because it is not important that I know exactly how much you make so state less if you are uncomfortable with a SB knowing but never over exaggerate as this is pure fake and I use income guidelines to determine if a SD can afford to be in an arrangement with me.
- Respect: yes mutual respect how can we get respect if we do not give it when deserved
- Be a gentlemen...it is more than opening up doors...it is knowing how to treat others with dignity and respect both in public and in private.
- Appreciative: If my SD appreciates what I do for him he will most likely be true to his word and make sure my allowance is always delivered promptly because the arrangement is really about appreciating each other.
- Clear Realistic Expectations: This for me is a deal breaker... both sides need to express what their expectations are in clear realistic terms, a potential SD needs to speak up and let me know what his expectations are so I can determine if they are in mesh with my own.
- Considerate: Being thoughtful, and considerate of my needs to me means being open to some extent and not putting me in a position that makes me feel fear or great discomfort.
- Practices healthy living to some degree.. social drinking is fine but every day over indulgence is not.. and taking care of ones body just lets us know how sweet it can be if he develops a little stamina under the sheets... oh so delicious.
- Has a complete profile which captures a little bit of the successful man... not one that is full of fake boastful brags.. men of power who have made it do not need to toot their own horn so loudly.
- Financial Stable: yep money is not first folks... financial honesty is up there but having the money means little if he is not interested in showing his appreciation . In finance often a SD will take hits in the stock market or even in his own business and at times find himself in a predicament where cash flow is tight for short periods of time. Knowing he can still show his appreciation for what I do for him is so important.
- Easy Going Personality: Yes, personality matters.. if you want a successful arrangement you need to search for a personality that will mesh with your own. Does he take himself too serious? Life too serious? Does he enjoy humorous stories and likes to laugh? Get to know the personality before the thickness of the wallet if you are searching for an arrangement that will last longer than a month or two.
- Diplomatic and Positive: A man who practices diplomacy is such a turn on for me.. he knows how to meet half way and how to avoid drama by doing so. Having a positive upbeat view on life is an added plus.
- Communication: Writing Style demonstrates intellect and when talking on the phone I look for his ability to communicate in a clear distinct manner, I also note topics that he demonstrates little knowledge of that gives me clues to his honesty level.
- Demonstrates a knowledge of what a good sugar arrangement is! This is not a deal breaker when it is a newbie SD but he must be open to understanding the it is not buying sex but actually based on appreciating each other and what both do for each other to make it mutually beneficial for me it is about him providing an allowance but it is also about building trust and open communication and making each meet better than last.
- Well Dressed when appropriate.
- Mentor: be willing to share knowledge and teach to some extent.
- Suave and Sophisticated: for me this is desirable but never a deal breaker if he has manners. ;)
- Location: I live in the U.S.A. so for me it is desirable that he live in the U.S. but if he comes monthly to this country I do think about it. Another state is not a deal breaker for me.. and it is fun to play away from home.
- Talk meets Walk: well-spoken – smart, articulate and witty in real life if it is listed on a profile.. just be who you are and avoid the airs.. no one enjoys lies.
Quality versus Quanity Part3: The List
My Quality list while not a short one has become a measuring stick for me when I meet a potential daddy, I have learned that the more traits they have on my list the more interested and attracted I am going to be. Now you might think that money will be on the top of my list and although it does make my list it does not top it. Why? Many people have wealth or at least have the means to afford a sugar babe, however, money does not mean a man who has desirable traits except green backs. I put the mutual back into the meaning of mutually beneficial arrangement for my sugar experiences. In doing this I took back my sugar power as I got caught in a rut of giving my power away thinking I was obligated to respect and treat the person with dignity that I was in an arrangement with even if it was detrimental for me. After my experience with Mr. Bobble-head I viewed it as a wake up call.. except for his drinking he was actually very pleasant, kind, and generous. All desirable traits except for the alcohol consumption. One night I sat with pencil and paper in hand and looked at what I thought Quality was for starters.My definition as applies to a SD: a characteristic trait that defines the apparent individual nature of a potential sugar. I searched online and found the best definition on your dictionary which states:(retrieved at http://www.yourdictionary.com/Quality )
Quality versus Quantity:Part 2
Last week I posted how hard it is to find one good genuine sugar relationship yet I am swamped with contacts so why is that? I attracted quantity...every wannabe in a hundred mile radius! I have been changing how I interview and screen a Potential and have considered changing my profile when the most amazing thing happened..I found a genuine article of an SD which I will blog about later. In my quest to find an arrangement that I would feel comfortable with I have had to meet quite a few Potentials.. enters Mr. Bobblehead. What can I saw about this adorable man at first glance except the place where he gets his shirts cleaned at needs to lay off the starch around the collars!!!
At first glance he had amazing potential.. over the course of a couple weeks we had exchanged emails, graduating to phone calls and text.. even a skype or two which gave me a glimpse of where he was at.. surroundings were very plush and I slowly realized he could afford to pursue a sugar arrangement. On a Thursday he calls and suggest we meet in Chicago as he will be there on business and I happily agree feeling more comfortable about taking the extra time to get to know him. Conversations with him have been great and we have talked about so many things like world affairs, politics, human interest items that have come up on the news and also about ourselves. He never came off condescending and actually practiced active listening skills. So I spent the rest of the day heading off for a little extra pampering, facial, nail salon, hair dresser.. and of course my beloved gym. I thought I would go out of the way to show him how I can look good for any occasion and the next morning carefully choose my wardrope opting for a hot little pencil skirt and matching jacket by Hermes and a Dior white linen off the shoulder blouse that is tailor to fit like a second skin...classic but sexy..add to that 4 inch stilettos, silk stockings held up by a black lace garter belt by Victoria Secrets , a statement necklace in 10k gold with black onyx and matching earrings.. matching handbag and a few dabs of channel perfume and I felt completely put together for any occasion.
Our meeting was at 6 p.m and I arrived with 10 minutes to spare as I was meeting him in the lobby of his hotel and the butterflies were working overtime from anticipation. As I walked into the lobby I got a few appreciative smiles and nods from a group of gentlemen gathered their and before I could approach the desk to have his room rang.. the very debonair gentlemen approached me and informed me my pictures and skype did not do me justice and I looked even better in person. ;) Nice opening line, I will give him that but he had already been drinking as I could smell the alcohol on his breath. So we headed out to dinner to a restaurant that had a great view of the city.. and started with drinks.. I had one glass of wine while he knocked down 6 double shots of scotch even before we ordered dinner and all the time he maintained a charming easy going demeanor. Never showing any signs of actually being intoxicated I figured he must hold his liquor well. After we ordered dinner I started sharing a humorous story with him and much to my amazement he started laughing very loudly like I donkey...hee hawing so loudly that other patrons at the restaurant were turning their heads staring. As he laughed his head would bobble like one of those little bobble-head dolls , and it was more pronounced due to the stiff starched collar and his short neck. I tried to control my amusement and encourage him to eat.. thinking he might actually be drunk but he was walking good when he got to the restaurant. Conversation continued to flow and through all of this he was so pleasant and enjoyable that I just ignored the occasional stares when his laughter got so loud. After dinner we headed down the elevator and he suggested a night cap which I quickly refused..and proceeded to the door.. it is one of those revolving doors that you push and I get in with him right behind me and take no more than 3 or 4 steps when Mr. Bobble-head bobbles right on top of me...yes you heard me right he falls right on top of me in a revolving door with glass all around..OMG was I freaked. He had passed out.. he had never shown any signs of stumbling when he walked but I knew he had too much to drink. After a little maneuvering and wiggling I was able to get out from underneath him.. and discovered that the door was in a position that only had about a 3 or 4 inch opening to the outside and glass all around us.. I checked his pulse to make sure he was okay and then tried with all my might to drag him forward so I could keep moving the door forward. A man passing by outside saw my dilemma and helped when I got enough of a gap for him to reach in an pull.. as he was able to get Mr. Bobble-head out I realized that as I had offered to drive I was still responsible for him and this gentleman got a first aide kit out of his vehicle with smelling salts and brought the man too. He helped me get him to my car and I took him back .. he was apologetic but getting drunker by the minutes.. as I pulled up I had the valet help him into the hotel and headed home. The next day I had an email from him that stated he had a wonderful time..lol.. and sorry for getting so inebriated and wanted to meet again.. but I passed. The point of sharing this story is because it opened my eyes to all the things we do not know about each other in the sugar world. As a sugar babe it is generally expected that we maintain an air of being all together...the complete package at all times.. and I do not think that men even realize just what we go through to look good for them.. all the waxing.. salon appointments...working out... to deliver that complete package.
SD's often focus on the outer package where women often focus on the inside as well as the out side. Mr. Bobble-head had a great deal going for him and the only problem for me with him was his excessive drinking which caused some mild discomfort for me.. especially so early in learning more about him. So what is quality when one is searching for a potential sugar... are you concerned only with the money? how he looks? or how he acts? Maybe you want the complete package too... yet trust me as in every day life we all have imperfections that others do not like but often tolerate. Gratefully I have learned from Mr. Bobble-head and still exchange an occasional email with him but have learned he often has alcoholic blackouts so very glad I passed. From this experience I started to examine what qualities a person needed to possess for me to feel comfortable. I am not talking about normal everyday dating relationships which my standards would even be higher but in the Sugar World. Social drinking is fine but you must know when to stop so I realized I have to ask about how much drinking an SD perceives as social drinking.Being a woman we need to always think of safety and when someone is under the influence of alcohol they can often get out of control so I realize initially I need to watch for these types of signs to maintain my own safety. So on to the list>>>>>>
My Quality List: What make an SD a man of Quality?
Honesty... this is one of the most desired traits among us girls... we like to know we can count on them.. and honesty in their sugar relationship is an absolute must for me... want more??? Stay tune to Part 3 of the complete list and yes there will be a few surprises that most do not think about... what would be on your quality list?
At first glance he had amazing potential.. over the course of a couple weeks we had exchanged emails, graduating to phone calls and text.. even a skype or two which gave me a glimpse of where he was at.. surroundings were very plush and I slowly realized he could afford to pursue a sugar arrangement. On a Thursday he calls and suggest we meet in Chicago as he will be there on business and I happily agree feeling more comfortable about taking the extra time to get to know him. Conversations with him have been great and we have talked about so many things like world affairs, politics, human interest items that have come up on the news and also about ourselves. He never came off condescending and actually practiced active listening skills. So I spent the rest of the day heading off for a little extra pampering, facial, nail salon, hair dresser.. and of course my beloved gym. I thought I would go out of the way to show him how I can look good for any occasion and the next morning carefully choose my wardrope opting for a hot little pencil skirt and matching jacket by Hermes and a Dior white linen off the shoulder blouse that is tailor to fit like a second skin...classic but sexy..add to that 4 inch stilettos, silk stockings held up by a black lace garter belt by Victoria Secrets , a statement necklace in 10k gold with black onyx and matching earrings.. matching handbag and a few dabs of channel perfume and I felt completely put together for any occasion.
Our meeting was at 6 p.m and I arrived with 10 minutes to spare as I was meeting him in the lobby of his hotel and the butterflies were working overtime from anticipation. As I walked into the lobby I got a few appreciative smiles and nods from a group of gentlemen gathered their and before I could approach the desk to have his room rang.. the very debonair gentlemen approached me and informed me my pictures and skype did not do me justice and I looked even better in person. ;) Nice opening line, I will give him that but he had already been drinking as I could smell the alcohol on his breath. So we headed out to dinner to a restaurant that had a great view of the city.. and started with drinks.. I had one glass of wine while he knocked down 6 double shots of scotch even before we ordered dinner and all the time he maintained a charming easy going demeanor. Never showing any signs of actually being intoxicated I figured he must hold his liquor well. After we ordered dinner I started sharing a humorous story with him and much to my amazement he started laughing very loudly like I donkey...hee hawing so loudly that other patrons at the restaurant were turning their heads staring. As he laughed his head would bobble like one of those little bobble-head dolls , and it was more pronounced due to the stiff starched collar and his short neck. I tried to control my amusement and encourage him to eat.. thinking he might actually be drunk but he was walking good when he got to the restaurant. Conversation continued to flow and through all of this he was so pleasant and enjoyable that I just ignored the occasional stares when his laughter got so loud. After dinner we headed down the elevator and he suggested a night cap which I quickly refused..and proceeded to the door.. it is one of those revolving doors that you push and I get in with him right behind me and take no more than 3 or 4 steps when Mr. Bobble-head bobbles right on top of me...yes you heard me right he falls right on top of me in a revolving door with glass all around..OMG was I freaked. He had passed out.. he had never shown any signs of stumbling when he walked but I knew he had too much to drink. After a little maneuvering and wiggling I was able to get out from underneath him.. and discovered that the door was in a position that only had about a 3 or 4 inch opening to the outside and glass all around us.. I checked his pulse to make sure he was okay and then tried with all my might to drag him forward so I could keep moving the door forward. A man passing by outside saw my dilemma and helped when I got enough of a gap for him to reach in an pull.. as he was able to get Mr. Bobble-head out I realized that as I had offered to drive I was still responsible for him and this gentleman got a first aide kit out of his vehicle with smelling salts and brought the man too. He helped me get him to my car and I took him back .. he was apologetic but getting drunker by the minutes.. as I pulled up I had the valet help him into the hotel and headed home. The next day I had an email from him that stated he had a wonderful time..lol.. and sorry for getting so inebriated and wanted to meet again.. but I passed. The point of sharing this story is because it opened my eyes to all the things we do not know about each other in the sugar world. As a sugar babe it is generally expected that we maintain an air of being all together...the complete package at all times.. and I do not think that men even realize just what we go through to look good for them.. all the waxing.. salon appointments...working out... to deliver that complete package.
SD's often focus on the outer package where women often focus on the inside as well as the out side. Mr. Bobble-head had a great deal going for him and the only problem for me with him was his excessive drinking which caused some mild discomfort for me.. especially so early in learning more about him. So what is quality when one is searching for a potential sugar... are you concerned only with the money? how he looks? or how he acts? Maybe you want the complete package too... yet trust me as in every day life we all have imperfections that others do not like but often tolerate. Gratefully I have learned from Mr. Bobble-head and still exchange an occasional email with him but have learned he often has alcoholic blackouts so very glad I passed. From this experience I started to examine what qualities a person needed to possess for me to feel comfortable. I am not talking about normal everyday dating relationships which my standards would even be higher but in the Sugar World. Social drinking is fine but you must know when to stop so I realized I have to ask about how much drinking an SD perceives as social drinking.Being a woman we need to always think of safety and when someone is under the influence of alcohol they can often get out of control so I realize initially I need to watch for these types of signs to maintain my own safety. So on to the list>>>>>>
My Quality List: What make an SD a man of Quality?
Honesty... this is one of the most desired traits among us girls... we like to know we can count on them.. and honesty in their sugar relationship is an absolute must for me... want more??? Stay tune to Part 3 of the complete list and yes there will be a few surprises that most do not think about... what would be on your quality list?
Quality versus Quanity: Part 1
Recently while reading blogs I have noticed some comments regarding the quality available in the Sugar World and how this seems to be sadly lacking! I started contemplating this as I have had my share of contacts from fakes, pranksters and flat out kinky liars which I will explain later. I have changed my screening process, and now I am focusing on changing my profile but not my expectations. Having been in wonderful sugar arrangements before with exceptional S.D.'s I realize that in the past I have had the cream of the crop. Always being treated with dignity and respect... I did not realize when I started my new search how much the landscape in the Sugar World was changing. Like in real life we also must change with the times but I refuse to sacrifice my principles or expectations for something that would be sadly lacking! So let me set the stage for this lengthy exploration and what I am now learning.
In former sugar relationships, I felt pampered and always trusted my former S.D.'s without hesitation which happens with time. Each came with their own unique intriguing personalities and genuinely cared about my well being and in turn I cared about their well being making it easy to pamper and spoil them as well. I learned through these experiences that a good sugar arrangement for me was more than dollars and cents. It involved being honest, discreet when necessary, having good communication skills to avoid unwanted drama, carrying oneself with dignity and grace, enjoying laughter, hot passionate quiet moments together, being open to trying new things, positions, and mutual trust to share and try each others fantasies. This type of arrangement required me to be adaptable and often going the extra mile to cater to by S.D. which I did gratefully and gladly. I discovered so much about my own sensuality and sexuality ...that I realized just how good sugar sessions are.. hot.. sometimes wild.. sometimes romantic and so very satisfying. I was the lucky one.. each of my former S.D.'s are still friends today and I value their advice and wisdom. I tried a brief stint of traditional dating which left me completely flat after my last arrangement ended. Men my own age just do so little for me and men twice my age which I am attracted to seldom look my way in Real Life Situations.. unless they are looking for a S.B. ;).
Understanding exactly what I am searching for I set my sights on having another sugar arrangement but in my area the gene pool is sadly lacking.. so I expanded my search thinking I would find QUALITY by doing so. What I am learning is that my search is a work in progress.. for sure ;). In this economy there are people looking to take advantage.. and I am know realizing that my profile had given clues to the fakes that may be able to take advantage of my vulnerabilities and that I needed to look hard at how much I was giving away about myself.. for example not being in any relationship in real life... living alone.. the flexibility of my schedule and only asking for assistance and accepting it on the months that are hard for me to get through while in school. My frank honesty actually opened the doors to some of the bizarre contacts I have gotten. As I have talked to other S.B.'s whom I have made friends with I realized we all have similar stories and are all asking the same questions.. where are the quality S.D.'s. The flip side to this question is that many S.D.'s are questioning where the quality S.B.'s are! A very wise Guru looked at my profile and gave me some advice which I appreciate and value the wisdom of his words.. so I have been adjusting it and realized it was okay in my profile to post what I will not accept which includes P4P. A well written profile is key but a little mystery is okay too.. I realized I do not need to toot my own horn but instead use my artistic side to paint a picture with words without giving too much away initially.. remove hints of living alone etc. let my self show and be genuine but at the same time providing myself more anonymity. Even investing now in a throw away phone to give that number out instead of my real phones that lead right back to my home address. ;)
So what brought all this on? Hm-mm lets see.. paying for trips to meet a Pot Fake S.D. who promised to reimburse for the trip and did not... paying for an expensive dinner for another Pot S.D. when he created a scene...lol... a series of emails, text and a phone call from one that had not even gotten to the meet stage yet who got his rocks off by scaring me and even told me after he did so that he does it all the time and masturbates when he finally gets the girls number to make her think he actually knows her, where she lives.. and has no intentions of ever meeting or entering an arrangement. He learns about them by lurking in blogs or on face-book.. yes social network sites. At one point took over one month of emailing and talking on the phone with one Pot.. to learn when meeting him that he had kinks and wanted to dress his S.B. and send her down to a bar to watch her pick up a stranger.. go screw him in their hotel room and then join back up with him so he could taste the left overs and get all the details and then compare it to his technique. He was into things like fisting.. rough play and so on... so needless to say in my search I have gotten very discouraged.
Not being in an relationship has left me oversexed .. and really wanting to find that quality S.D. the kind that I know so well , who understands what a traditional sugar relationship is really about and appreciates a Sugar Babe who pampers back.. and gives him all her attention when they are together... one who is low maintenance , loyal, respectful, easy to talk to, open and honest, and one who avoids bringing drama into the arrangement. It is funny but it seems that the genuine quality S.D.'s that I seek are more intrigued with the drama filled S.B.'s who have drug problems..lol.. so I continue to search and question what I am doing wrong that is attracting all the losers. I just had new pictures taken of me in outdoor and indoor settings that give nothing away except a sweet smile and if they want more pictures they will have to ask for them and only after I have asked a few questions of my own. I am getting a lot more contacts in the past month then in the past yet Quantity means nothing in the scheme of things when there is no quality in the gene pool. Have you ran into similar situations?
In my next part I will share the story of Mr. Bobblehead and how that experience has motivated me to not give up on quest. I call him Bobblehead for a reason which I will soon reveal.. true story but a definite Ouch! for many..;) Also my list of desirable traits that separate a Pot SD from the rest and put him in my quality category.
In former sugar relationships, I felt pampered and always trusted my former S.D.'s without hesitation which happens with time. Each came with their own unique intriguing personalities and genuinely cared about my well being and in turn I cared about their well being making it easy to pamper and spoil them as well. I learned through these experiences that a good sugar arrangement for me was more than dollars and cents. It involved being honest, discreet when necessary, having good communication skills to avoid unwanted drama, carrying oneself with dignity and grace, enjoying laughter, hot passionate quiet moments together, being open to trying new things, positions, and mutual trust to share and try each others fantasies. This type of arrangement required me to be adaptable and often going the extra mile to cater to by S.D. which I did gratefully and gladly. I discovered so much about my own sensuality and sexuality ...that I realized just how good sugar sessions are.. hot.. sometimes wild.. sometimes romantic and so very satisfying. I was the lucky one.. each of my former S.D.'s are still friends today and I value their advice and wisdom. I tried a brief stint of traditional dating which left me completely flat after my last arrangement ended. Men my own age just do so little for me and men twice my age which I am attracted to seldom look my way in Real Life Situations.. unless they are looking for a S.B. ;).
Understanding exactly what I am searching for I set my sights on having another sugar arrangement but in my area the gene pool is sadly lacking.. so I expanded my search thinking I would find QUALITY by doing so. What I am learning is that my search is a work in progress.. for sure ;). In this economy there are people looking to take advantage.. and I am know realizing that my profile had given clues to the fakes that may be able to take advantage of my vulnerabilities and that I needed to look hard at how much I was giving away about myself.. for example not being in any relationship in real life... living alone.. the flexibility of my schedule and only asking for assistance and accepting it on the months that are hard for me to get through while in school. My frank honesty actually opened the doors to some of the bizarre contacts I have gotten. As I have talked to other S.B.'s whom I have made friends with I realized we all have similar stories and are all asking the same questions.. where are the quality S.D.'s. The flip side to this question is that many S.D.'s are questioning where the quality S.B.'s are! A very wise Guru looked at my profile and gave me some advice which I appreciate and value the wisdom of his words.. so I have been adjusting it and realized it was okay in my profile to post what I will not accept which includes P4P. A well written profile is key but a little mystery is okay too.. I realized I do not need to toot my own horn but instead use my artistic side to paint a picture with words without giving too much away initially.. remove hints of living alone etc. let my self show and be genuine but at the same time providing myself more anonymity. Even investing now in a throw away phone to give that number out instead of my real phones that lead right back to my home address. ;)
So what brought all this on? Hm-mm lets see.. paying for trips to meet a Pot Fake S.D. who promised to reimburse for the trip and did not... paying for an expensive dinner for another Pot S.D. when he created a scene...lol... a series of emails, text and a phone call from one that had not even gotten to the meet stage yet who got his rocks off by scaring me and even told me after he did so that he does it all the time and masturbates when he finally gets the girls number to make her think he actually knows her, where she lives.. and has no intentions of ever meeting or entering an arrangement. He learns about them by lurking in blogs or on face-book.. yes social network sites. At one point took over one month of emailing and talking on the phone with one Pot.. to learn when meeting him that he had kinks and wanted to dress his S.B. and send her down to a bar to watch her pick up a stranger.. go screw him in their hotel room and then join back up with him so he could taste the left overs and get all the details and then compare it to his technique. He was into things like fisting.. rough play and so on... so needless to say in my search I have gotten very discouraged.
Not being in an relationship has left me oversexed .. and really wanting to find that quality S.D. the kind that I know so well , who understands what a traditional sugar relationship is really about and appreciates a Sugar Babe who pampers back.. and gives him all her attention when they are together... one who is low maintenance , loyal, respectful, easy to talk to, open and honest, and one who avoids bringing drama into the arrangement. It is funny but it seems that the genuine quality S.D.'s that I seek are more intrigued with the drama filled S.B.'s who have drug problems..lol.. so I continue to search and question what I am doing wrong that is attracting all the losers. I just had new pictures taken of me in outdoor and indoor settings that give nothing away except a sweet smile and if they want more pictures they will have to ask for them and only after I have asked a few questions of my own. I am getting a lot more contacts in the past month then in the past yet Quantity means nothing in the scheme of things when there is no quality in the gene pool. Have you ran into similar situations?
In my next part I will share the story of Mr. Bobblehead and how that experience has motivated me to not give up on quest. I call him Bobblehead for a reason which I will soon reveal.. true story but a definite Ouch! for many..;) Also my list of desirable traits that separate a Pot SD from the rest and put him in my quality category.
What every SB needs: a good wardrobe..How To do it on the cheap.
Starting out in the sugar world it is important to have a good basic wardrobe so you can dress for any occasion. A handful of designer items is essential.. I have always focused on accessories as a few designer accessories like Prada, Chanel, etc. can go along way in dressing up an outfit.
Second hand designer shops and consignment shops are an excellent resource for this. Today many of the high end designer consignment shops are online. I am posting some of my favorites.
Love these shoes and yes ladies you will see when you go to that website they are sold..he he he guess who bought them? The key is to be selective choosing items that are timeless and can be interchanged with other pieces. I often find items that have not been worn and even still have the tags on them at a fraction of the price. You need to know your size, and I have even found items that are current in the stores and have actually tried that outfit on first then went back home and logged in online an purchased it..he he he.. of course being frugal is not for everyone but not all SD's are shopping men or gift daddies but still want us to fit into their world. I have found this is what works for me but I also purchased every day clothing items as well and today have an amazing wardrobe.
Links:
Le Thrift is one of my favorites and have lots of Chanel, Dior, Fendi, Coach, Dolce & Gabbana, Gucci, Kors, Prada and so much more.. they ship quickly and I have been very happy with everything I have gotten through them.
Tra Tutti Consignment has a shop by designer section which I love and wow have I found some deals there!!
McShane's Exchange is in Chicago and I have found some amazing things there both in the store and online.. this is another one that is worth bookmarking.
http://mcshaneexchange.com/index.html
Christabelles Closet you may have heard of as it has been mentioned on Oprah,Shape, Early Show, Abc News, Fox and Friends and more... you can save 80% and sometimes even a little more. Great variety and sizes for all. Even has a Ten Dollar clearance closet... yes you are reading that right.
http://www.christabellescloset.com/
Rice and Beans Vintage Affordable Luxuries.
100% Authentic Designer Vintage and Modern Designer Clothing from Chanel, Christian Dior, Emilio Pucci, St. John, Yves Saint Laurent, Burberry, Missoni, Gucci, Lanvin, Salvatore Ferragamo, Bonnie Cashin, Diane von Furstenberg, Escada, Hermes, Pierre Cardin, Fendi, Valentino, Marc Jacobs, and much more.
http://www.riceandbeansvintage.com/
4 ever Michelle Couture:
lots of high end designers, I can always find something there.
http://www.shop.4evermichellecouture.com/
Label Lovers Boutique:
D&G, Marc Jacobs, Prada, Burberry, Juicy Couture, Coach, and many more.
http://stores.labelloversboutique.com/StoreFront.bok
Covet shop is another one of my favorites need to have a little extra cash here but love their high end items most everything I have gotten there is new. http://www.covetshop.com/489/All_New
And yes girls lots of
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