To Be or Not to Be in the Sugar World

I recently have received quite a few emails from others who are exploring the sugar world.  Each of them is trying to figure out if the sugar world is right for them and to some extent what a sugar relationship entails as they have started meeting a few Potentials.  I am addressing it here in my blog but first must state that each person in the sugar world will have different experiences and encounters and you must know yourself and how you handle various situations to determine if it is right for you.

Why a sugar arrangement?  Each of us have different reasons for exploring the sugar world and the misconception about greed does not apply to everyone.  For some it is about goals they want to meet.. starting their own business.. college tuition .. help with books or software.. living expenses.. something they are saving for.  For others it is about clothes, gifts, saving in a hard economy or just making ends meet and not going under.  For some experience Sugars it is all about the excitement of the sugar relationship, getting to experience things they would not have the opportunity to do otherwise, going to exotic places and being a companion, friend and lover.  A sugar arrangement also opens up many doors at times.. you can learn from the relationship where you are mentored.. learn about investments.. how to meet and reach your goals.  For me I have found that a sugar arrangement can be very sweet.. better than chocolate. ;)

What it takes to be a Sugar Babe?

Some will tell you it takes tenacity, a tough skin, the ability to deal with rejection, the ability to role play.  Others will say it takes skill to separate your real life from the sugar life, having the ability to spot a fake, and the ability to know when to say pass.  To some extent it takes all these things but I have learned through time that the most important element to bring to the table is your honest self.  Always be true to yourself and understand what you are getting into, gifts and financial help is wonderful but we sugars have our end to hold up as well.  We need to learn right from the beginning what is expected from us and what are expectations are as well.  Some Sugar Daddies have certain kinks and we need to ask questions that let us know if we are going to be comfortable in this type of situation, are we comfortable traveling immediately to foreign countries, going to swingers clubs if this is his kink?  Being a Sugar takes courage to ask some difficult questions, honesty to allow the SD to feel connected to us.  The arrangement is about finding someone who cares about our well-being and wants to help us.. to do this we need to show who we are to some extent and not put on airs or claim we know things that we don't.  At times for me being a Sugar Babe is being able to face rejection gracefully, always keep open communication, be willing to grow and explore, be a best friend at times, a confidante, a lover, be discreet in public and wild cat behind clothes doors and in doing all this always be true to myself and be myself.

When to accept an arrangement:  Never accept an arrangement that does not feel right.. do not settle as those types of arrangements never last long!  If you are not comfortable dating a married SD simply do not agree to even meet those.. lately I have been contemplating why both sexes have the feeling that the other is so fake.  It is because we do not bring our authentic self into the arrangement.. both sides sometimes present a facade that is not who they are.  They pretend to have more than they do, use outdated pictures and basically are just curiosity seekers who this is a game to.  Some are simply picture collectors and lately I came to the conclusion that the pictures I put on my profile will be what they will see until the first meeting. I am focused on a SD who wants more than just sex.. he wants to feel a connection and knows that building that bond makes me want to pamper and spoil him as well.  With the downturn of the economy I have heard many tales how SD's feel sorry for a potential SB and send money before even meeting and having an arrangement.  My advice to those SD's  DO NOT DO THAT!!! and RUN.  It is those wannabees who give sugars a bad name everywhere.

For someone who is exploring this life style ask yourself what you have to bring to the table and if it will affect how you view yourself?  If you are just looking for a fast buck... join an escort service as real sugars are not escorts we are the complete package and we go the extra lengths to look good.  Eat healthy, stay hydrated, work out, pay close attention to our skin, hair, nails, feet, and how we dress.  We know how to look a million bucks even if we don't have much money.. and we know how to treat our men.  Not everyone can be a sugar.